Ok, just something on my mind. No political commentary. We have a long way to go before November. There’s plenty of time for that.
But I’m confessing a double standard in my parenting. Guilty. I admit it. Maybe I should be ashamed of myself, but I’m not. Call me a hypocrite, call me a sinner. I already knew my propensity for sin.
But, when my son began dating years ago, I did not nearly check out the information concerning his girlfriends or dates as I do the boys who want to spend time with my daughters. And you know it. We all know it. I’m not the only one. The other dads I talk to have the same double standard. Call us all heathens and hypocrites. Or join with the political left and say that we’re a part of the totally fabricated “war on women.” Oops, I said no political commentary…my bad.
I just want to know something about… the guys who want my little girls to get in a car, without me or their mom, and go somewhere with them. I mean no harm. They may be great, extraordinary Christian young men. But they have to realize that until I get to know them, my daughters are on an importance scale of around 10,000 to me and, until proven otherwise, I assume that the young men are no higher than maybe a ……… 14. I also realize that some of the dads of daughters that my son dated had a similar scale, and I’m okay with that.
So, yeah, I need to know something about them. What do they do? What are their plans? Which is their favorite president of the twentieth century, and why? Simple stuff. And no matter where they’re going – a restaurant, a movie, the library, or a study of Systematic Theology followed by a gospel singing and prayer meeting at the local Baptist Church, I need to know something about the boy. However….my daughters get nervous about that.
They get nervous for the boys. It’s actually not bad, for me, that is. I explain to them what I do for a living, find out what they want to do for a living, then get into the spiritual topics, find out where they go to church, what God said to them in their quiet time that morning, and recite their memory verse for the week.
I remember one poor guy kind of got off track when we started the prayer….because I normally say,” Now, buddy, you know what a chain prayer is? Well, we’re gonna have one right now before you leave with my daughter. You’re gonna’ start and I will finish, and yours better be good. The one guy in particular, bless his heart..hee…hee….all he could come up with was “Now I lay me down to sleep…” Then, shaking like a leaf he stumbled around and found himself reciting the second half of the Pledge of Allegiance to the flag. Completely rattled at that point, another memorized line popped into his mind and he finished his magnificent portion of the prayer with…”do ordain and establish this constitution of the United States of America.” I said “Son, we’re gonna’ have to work on the public praying thing.”……..”Yes sir.”
Bless his heart….hee hee.
But I will continue with my double standard. I am committed to it and would love your comments pro or con. And yes, some of the above, especially the chain prayer bit, is humorous fabrication, but I do ask questions. I will continue to do so.
And I haven’t ruled out the chain prayer yet…
Talk to you soon.
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